Hi again everyone, let us see another case study in relationship!
When talking about the dynamic of our relationship, it is actually being influenced heavily by our personal energy cycle. Some years you may fall in love, some years you may feel like enjoying yourself. Someone has recently asked me to see her relationship luck from her bazi and asked whether she would be happily married to her loved one. So let us see her four pillars:
Female, 23th Mar 1980, 07.50am
This person is a weak wood person. To determine her relationship luck, first of all we need to see the so called ‘spouse palace’, the element underneath self.
By rule of thumb, a weak wood person does not like earth. However, this type of earth she has underneath has wood inside as hidden element. Therefore her spouse would be caring and supportive to her especially in times of needs, although might not be obvious from the outside. Interestingly, this spouse element tells you about your ‘type’ : the criterias you look for in a partner. Therefore irregardless of the person, the basic character of your partner remains similar.
‘When is a good time to get married?’
We often hear the saying ‘to love someone you need to love yourself first’. This rule applies here as well: for a relationship to be successful you need to be secure with yourself. This means your self element cannot be too weak, otherwise you will resist the relationship subsconsciously. Even if it manages to translate to the next step such as marriages, there will be lots of unnecessary quarrels.
This person is a weak wood, she needs water and wood to support and strengthen her. The question is, where can she get more water and wood? The answer is to see her ‘luck cycle‘ or cycle of visiting elements every 5 years:
At the moment the person is about to enter water luck (age 30-35), thus it is a good timing to harness relationship as her self element will be more balanced with water element visiting. The next ten years consisting of wood and water element is also good for her. Thus if she asked when is a good time to get married, I would say starting next year (2010 and 2011- wood years).
‘Would I be happy?’
Happiness is one thing a Four Pillar cannot tell; it can only tell whether the timing is right or not. Happiness and sadness are all part of a cycle, there will always be both in a relationship. Therefore let us not be indulged in ‘analysis paralysis’. I would say let the course of the nature lead you and you’ll be fine. Agree?
Until next one!
